I love my pal angie. when I was diagnosed she read up all about ra so she has a good basic understanding of the disease, she is sympathetic and understanding, knows about depression too. Since my diagnosis we've had lots of chats over the phone, as we women do about family, friends, work, life and generally what we have been up to and I do avoid talking too much about ra - there are so many other things to chat about. However, now I am in holland for a few months we agreed to go back to talking on skype - we did this when I was in istanbul for a couple of years a while back - and the horror of skype calling comes back to me. Last night I had just come back from a walk with my husband clenching my buttocks (remember forrest gump!) the last 200 yards in a rush for the toilet. I feel miserable and a bit unwell but I have promised to skype angie. I call her computer which he seems to guard like hades, he answers it, tells me my sound is wrong, my camera is wrong, I say I'd like to speak to angie, he says don't I want to talk to him, I say no because I'm not feeling too good. With absolutely no sympathy expressed he finally gets my pal and I want to explain to her that I'm just calling to say I'll call again when I feel more on top of things and I sense he is in the room, he is always in the room, he never leaves her to talk to me without staying the background adding his two penn'orth. I didn't want to declare over the loudspeaker to him as well as her I had had a bout of diarrhoea (though I have now just told the whole of the NRAS forum) and how these last couple of weeks basically I have felt like shit, more pains and the fear that the drugs aren't working as well as they should and this is partly because of what I feel is a total lack of understanding on his part and partly because I feel he doesn't give her enough space. I really don't mind if she discusses me with her husband once we have finished our call but I find this conregational skyping inhibiting.
Am I being unreasonable?
